While everyone knows Alwyn and Swift are an item, they don't publicly discuss their relationship. In a 2018 interview with GQ, Alwyn refused to even reveal his favorite song by Swift. "I'm just not even going to go into that side of the world," he said.

Swift and Alwyn are rarely photographed together and don't even pose for Instagram pictures together, and that's very much by design. "I've learned that if I do [talk about my relationship], people think it's up for discussion, and our relationship isn't up for discussion," Swift told The Guardian in 2019. "If you and I were having a glass of wine right now, we'd be talking about it—but it's just that it goes out into the world. That's where the boundary is, and that's where my life has become manageable. I really want to keep it feeling manageable."